This isn’t really how curtly and gramatically sketchy you should talk to someone you’re writing about in your personal essay collection, but when it’s a friend since age 11, this is how you talk to each other. This is how I fact check. Also most people who aren’t writers don’t remember shit. (Am writing an essay for my new book about giving up singing, after a decade of voice lessons.) I am proud of my creepy memory! I wouldn’t be able to write what I do, otherwise.